The end of the nightmare?
In the final session of our parents course ‘Happy, Healthy, Safe‘, we ask mums to bring along the ‘nightmare questions’ they dread their children asking them about sex or relationships. As a group, we then work out how we would answer them. On our latest course, most of the mums felt that following the course, they had now got the skills and knowledge to respond to any question their child asked. We still had to tackle ‘What is sexy? Is sexy being good?’, ‘what is a lap dancer?’ and ‘what is sexual abuse?’ – and we came up with some responses to these questions.
In between the wine, nibbles, chocolate biscuits we tackled; our hopes and fears for our child’s relationships, what to discuss when, cultural influences on our children and using books and stories to share important messages.
Each session ended with a bedtime story including ‘Mummy laid an egg’ and ‘Hair in funny places’ by Babette Cole and ‘Where Willy went’ by Nicholas Allen. And the final message? Don’t have nightmares.
Respect Me Too project
Julie has been busy working with Year 7 students at Essa Academy in Bolton on a pilot project funded by Awards for All. We developed the project in response to the alarming statistics on teenage relationship abuse and the young people involved have created their own responses to this issue.
At the presentation event, the students shared their responses to teenage domestic abuse to their parents, staff and invited guests from Bolton Council and local organisations who support those who experience abuse.
We were also joined by Paul Haunch from Bolton at Home who worked with us on the project as project facilitator.
The student’s projects were:
- a short film which included a discussion on abuse in relationships
- a piece of drama about a student dealing with an abusive boyfriend
- a banner promoting respect in relationships
- a poem about a woman experiencing domestic abuse
Working with such young students (11 and 12 year olds) meant that we could raise awareness of the issues and realities of teenage relationship abuse before they were involved in intimate relationships. The students dealt with the material we explored with an open and mature attitude and were eager to learn about the impact abuse had on individuals, communities and society. They will be sharing their responses with students at Essa Academy and, hopefully, with other young people across Bolton.
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Lloyds Banking Group demonstrate their commitment to staff welfare and well-being
We have just finished a series of 9 workplace workshops for female staff at Lloyds Banking Group headquarters in Halifax. Over 140 staff participated in the workshops which helped women understand what they can do to stay safe and reduce risks, plus some simple, but effective physical techniques to stop someone hurting them.
The response was fantastic with 100% stating that they would recommend the workshop to a friend. Comments from staff included:
• ‘It was amazing and I would love to learn more.’
• ‘Empowering – everyone should do this.’
• ‘It is fantastic that this is provided by the company.’
• ‘I feel more confident and equipped to deal with tricky situations.’
• ‘I will be much more aware and take control of my safety.’
It is a testament to Lloyds Banking Group that they provided this personal development opportunity to staff at a time when budgets being reduced. However, we saw first-hand the impact it had on the staff who took part and their increased motivation, confidence and belief in themselves – which can only be a good thing for their employer.
If you would like us to run a personal safety workshop for your staff, please contact us.
Empowering Girls Out Loud to stay safe
We are delighted to be part of the inspiring Girls Out Loud mentoring programme in Crewe. We will be running a 2 hour personal safety workshop for the 20 girls on the programme plus their 20 ‘Big Sisters’. The programme raises the aspirations of teenage girls by providing them with positive role models, access to activities which build their confidence and support from dedicated mentors (Big Sisters) who learn and develop along with the girls they support.
Our workshop will focus on the fact that ‘no-one has the right to hurt me because I am amazing’ and we will help participants learn how to stop someone hurting them, reduce risk and stay safe. With more than 40 of us taking part, it will be loud, energetic, empowering and a celebration of our inner and physical strength.
Read more about Girls Out Loud on their website.